Why do the high and mighty fall from their pedestals?

By Martin Thoolen,
Published at 22 November 2022.
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Kanye West, Prince Andrew, Bill Cosby amongst Dutch celebrities like Matthijs van Nieuwkerk, Glennis Grace, Marco Borsato sooner or later they go too far and the whole truth is revealed. What is actually going on? And what is the solution?

Why are (famous) people visibly going too far increasingly often?

It all revolves around their ego, which clamps itself determinedly to a few ego passengers, focusing on projecting a positive image. But there is no real awareness that this is happening.

One of the three fundamental forces that determine all our choices and behaviour is our ego, as I explain in my new book - Personal Inspiring Leadership. It highlights several points, including the fact that your ego is nothing more than the 'I' that you identify with and think 'this is how I am'. You are frequently controlled subconsciously by a number of ego passengers. You can see your ego as a bus on which each passenger thinks, feels, sees, talks and acts differently. You behave very differently when your inner pleaser pleaser drives the bus instead of, for example, your instinctive, animal ego passenger.

In people who demand a positive public image of themselves you often see the following ego passengers hijacking thoughts and actions: the pleaser, controller, perfectionist, pusher or patriarch The less socially desirable ego passengers are subconsciously left on the back seat or even moved to the trailer of oblivion, starting their own demonic lives in the darkness.

However, everything that you hide in yourself will boomerang back on you eventually. See what happens when you systematically push away your instinctive passenger, just like trying to push a ball ever further underwater. Despite your best efforts the instinctive passenger will resurface with hellish rage, unbridled sexual desire or unacceptable behaviour and insults directed towards others. And all this happened to Kanye West, Prince Andrew, Bill Cosby and so many other celebrities.

“Everything that you hide in yourself will boomerang back on you eventually”

The solution?

We are living in a time of great spiritual transition in which the truth is gradually being unveiled. That which could remain concealed is coming to light sooner and more often. This provides a more complete picture of what is really happening. It is preceded by intense polarisation, but growing transparency helps us see the truth. How do we resolve this polarisation? Simply by setting good examples, at home and at work.

Prevent polarisation and employ ego management - recognise and acknowledge your light and dark sides and handle them more effectively. This requires courage and relentless honesty about all aspects of yourself. For example, do not suppress your instinctive ego passengers, but rather acknowledge, embrace and communicate them. Prevent the accumulation of an emotional dam full of anger or unfulfilled sexual desires. Because when your inner controller runs out of energy and the dam breaks you will be inundated.

Would you like to experience how you can manage this and more?

Check the new Masters' course on Personal Inspiring Leadership:
https://martinthoolen.com/en/service/master-module-persoonlijk-inspirerend-leiderschap/

Or enrich yourself with the insights and knowledge that help you in my new (Dutch) book: https://www.boekenbestellen.nl/boek/persoonlijk-inspirerend-leiderschap/9789090362908

(English book will appear in the beginning of 2023) Click on Fragment to see the promotional copy and find out whether my book could help you.

©2022: Martin Thoolen

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Martin Thoolen

My 30 years of professional experience as an awareness coach, clinical and organisational psychologist has enabled me to help thousands of clients in Personal or Collective Leadership. Both groups and individuals, in coaching sessions, training courses, leadership development and organisation development programs, retreats and seminars.
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