Je hebt het zo druk. Iedere dag. Uitval van je teamleden komt je echt niet goed uit.

Nooit eigenlijk.

Want je wilt toch die teamdoelen realiseren en je organisatie vooruit helpen. Zonder je team te veel te belasten. Hoe kun je dan als manager burn-out voorkomen? Of in ieder geval significant reduceren? Zodat ze niet omvallen, maar voor je kunnen blijven werken. Veel, je kunt veel doen, maar dan vraagt dat wel om een nieuwe insteek. Want jij hebt hier als bestuurder of manager een enorme invloed op.

Je weet zelf wel wat burn-out in je team je kost: geld, extra tijd aan overdracht en verminderd werkplezier, teamspirit en minder teamresultaat.

“Burn-out is een mega-energielek in je team en organisatie”

Bij alle mensen zit een grens aan wat ze aankunnen. Zonder uitzondering. Dat maakt ons mens in plaats van een robot. Twee van de negen kenmerken van bewustzijn in mijn nieuwe boek ‘Persoonlijk Inspirerend Leiderschap’, zijn: omarmen van de polariteiten (w.o. inspanning versus ontspanning) en het honoreren van natuurlijke cycli. Als je deze natuurwetten volgt als leider, dan houd je je team of organisatie vitaal en duurzaam inzetbaar.

Omarm polariteiten (zoals inspanning vs.inspanning)

Accepteer, luister en handel jij als manager naar de kracht die je van je teamleden vraagt? Dat ze hun targets moeten halen en (extra) taken moeten uitvoeren? Echter, doe je hetzelfde met hun kwetsbaarheid als mens? Ook al komt jou dat minder goed uit voor het eindresultaat? Kortom, omarm je naast de kracht ook de kwetsbaarheid in je team?

Concreet, herken jij de fysieke en geestelijke stress-signalen bij je medewerkers? Weet je welke dat zijn? Of, blijf je op afstand en neem je ze onvoldoende waar? Kijk eens wat er gebeurt als je vaker naar ze toeloopt, vraagt over de telefoon hoe het nu écht met ze gaat. En vooral door de barrière van sociale wenselijkheid heen vraagt. Dan kun je zomaar burn-outs voor zijn.

Als je teamleden dan zo eerlijk zijn en zeggen dat het eigenlijk te veel voor ze is, erken je dan ook hun negatieve stress? Want voor je het weet bagatelliseer je of rechtvaardig je de stress-signalen van je collega’s, zonder er écht iets mee te doen. Waarom? Omdat het je misschien niet goed uitkomt.

Volgen van natuurlijke cycli

Na regen komt zonneschijn, komt regen, komt zonneschijn, komt regen, etc. Na inademing komt uitademing, komt inademing, komt uitademing, etc. Na inspanning komt ontspanning, komt inspanning, komt ontspanning, etc.

Deze natuurlijke cycli kenmerken het natuurlijke leven zelf en dié houden ons vitaal en duurzaam inzetbaar. Ook je team of organisatie. Er is alleen één ding wat hier faliekant tegenin kan gaan en verantwoordelijk is voor stelselmatig negatieve stress in jezelf of je team: ego gevoed vanuit angst. Ervaring wijst uit dat drie ego-passagiers in mensen de natuurwetten aan hun laars lappen; je innerlijke pleaser, pusher en perfectionist. En dan lopen we soms tijden lang harder door dan ons lichaam aankan totdat het licht uitgaat. Want: wie niet horen wil, moet voelen. Doodzonde.

Als je niet het ego van jezelf als leider en je teamleden altijd laat overheersen, dan open je de deur naar teamvitaliteit en duurzame inzetbaarheid. Als je noodzakelijke ontspanning en kwetsbaarheid honoreert, krijg je als leider op de lange termijn meer van de grond.

Wil je weten hoe en welke negatieve stress-signalen bij je teamleden kunt herkennen, erkennen en effectief mee kunt omgaan? Wil je weten hoe je praktisch teamspirit kunt versterken als buffer tegen stress?

Op 12 januari a.s. van 16.00 – 17.00 uur verzorg ik in samenwerking met Leeruniek een Webinar voor bestuurders, schooldirecteuren en IB-ers: Teamvitaliteit en duurzame inzetbaarheid.

Ook jouw team of organisatie vitaal en duurzaam inzetbaar maken?

Neem contact met me op: martin@martinthoolen.com. of bel/app me op: 06 -15620111.

En wellicht kunnen we in een vrijblijvend gesprek kijken wat ik voor je kan betekenen.

Zelf geïnteresseerd, voor je zelf

Bekijk dan hier het kerstcadeau: het boek ‘Persoonlijk Inspirerend Leiderschap’. Voor effectiever werken, zinvol leven én een beter wereld. Bekijk of bestel hier een exemplaar:

https://www.boekenbestellen.nl/boek/persoonlijk-inspirerend-leiderschap/9789090362908

Onder de boekcover kun je bij Fragment kijken in het promo-exemplaar of het boek je wat lijkt. Je kunt het boek ook hier kopen en je hebt het snel in huis.

Of ervaar het aan den lijve hoe je werk/leven-balans nog meer op orde krijgt met de nieuwe Mastercourse Persoonlijk Inspirerend Leiderschap:

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After three years of work, over 300 pages of new inspiration has finally landed. For your work and private life. If you find it interesting and start reading, I'm curious what you think of it.

Oh yes, do you like to give this inspiration to a family member, friend or colleague?
It would be nice if you share this post.

Kind regards and above all enjoy reading, Martin

P.S. How the world has become is close to my heart. In small and large. That is why I have spent the past 3 years browsing and writing how we can make it more beautiful for ourselves and each other, at work and beyond. This is the result.

For who?

This book is intended for anyone who, in their private or work life, wants to:

• work more effectively;

- wants to further develop his/her talents

- have a healthy work/life balance;

- increase the amount of control they have in their own life and work;

- experience more pleasure, passion, meaning and vitality;

- feel more inner peace and quiet;

- to contribute to better relationships - privately as well as in business;

- make a meaningful contribution to a better world.

Regardless of whether you are a leader, lawmaker, entrepreneur, manager, professional, associate, student, parent, family member, teenager or an adult.

What to expect?

This book will take you straight to the source of all your choices and behaviors. It will give you accessible insights, inspiring examples and exercises that you’ll be able to apply immediately, and see results of quickly. You will gain insight into the three forces that determine each and every one of your choices, behaviors and personal leadership: ego, soul and consciousness (spirit).

The following questions will be answered: What is ego anyway? Should you jettison your ego? What are the benefits of ego, and what are its pitfalls? Or, what is the soul? Is there a reason for our existence? What are the five existential tasks the soul has to tackle? What are the pros and cons of working and living from inspiration? And, what is spirit or consciousness? How can you utilize it more to have smoother relationships in private and at work and to create more peace for yourself and others around you? In the last section of the book you will see how you can make a real contribution towards a better world.

It seems unlikely when you look around today. Actually, not just today, but any time in the last five millennia. However, I am still a dreamer who believes it certainly is possible, which gives life meaning. 

Especially if we don’t wait for others but take independent action. Not waiting for a redeemer but becoming our own redeemer. Everyone in their own world. With neighbours, colleagues, other road users, fellow citizens and fellow human beings.

A worldwide divergence is currently taking place. One that is inevitable and necessary. Two environments are being created. By those who choose ego, and those who choose (self)consciousness/spirit. These are two incompatible paths that were predicted long ago and are clearly illustrated on the Hopi stone that I visited with a guide in Arizona, the USA, in 2018. 

Ego-focussed environments, societies and organisations

Ego-focused environments, societies and organisations are typified by preferential treatment of some groups at the expense of others. Rich over poor, men above women, white above non-white, non-native above native, etc. 

Countries can even be in the grip of an extreme collective ego guided by their ego-driven leaders. They are typified by one of the eight ego-coup roles into which you can fall and remain one of which is the ruler, as I discuss in my book on Spirited Personal Leadership.

Ego as Ruler

In this case, a leader cares for his people, according to a ‘personal diktat.’ He does whatever it takes to be on top, because then he will have more power and influence. They put themselves above others, who must obey their will in order to meet their needs. To achieve this, they use a wide range of power resources, not just the aforementioned position of power. But strong powers of persuasion (which is sometimes expressed as literally screaming at ‘your people’), charisma, strategic traits (including lying) expertise or knowledge, income or status or networks can also be employed to impose their will on others.

If the people ‘under them’ are not obedient, they condemn them and try to get rid of them. The driving force is the fear that they, or their group, will be inadequate or enjoy less prestige. They consistently communicate this fear by means of threats issued to those who think differently. By intimidation. For instance, when the chairman of the board gives you hell, while it is not you but several incumbent administrators who are incompetent. Or threatening using displays of power – from threats of dismissal to military parades with nuclear missiles.

You make your allies dependent by giving preferential treatment and other privileges. For example, in the Corona policy that was enforced by a great many countries all over the world we saw preferred groups, and others who were free to kick the bucket. Vaccines first went to the rich, and then the poor.

If the ego of a leader or government wants to dominate even more, you expand your territory of personal authorities and have them – if possible – laid down in statutory provisions, sometimes even in the constitution. This enables you to accrue even more power. Just take a look at some of our current dictatorial government leaders. And it doesn’t stop there, because ideally they expand their territory in the literal sense and rob other people of their land in order to serve themselves and their preferential group. At the expense of others.

Deze meer spiritueel laag-ontwikkelde samenlevingen, regeringen en organisaties maken zich, ondanks of soms dankzij de invulling van hun religie, schuldig aan angst zaaien, macht uitoefenen, manipulatie, martelingen, (uit)moorden, stelselmatige indoctrinatie, verbergen en verdraaien van informatie of het geven van eenzijdige informatie.

But things can be different if ‘Inspired Leaders’ rule the world.

Spirited environments, societies and organisations

De spiritueel meer ontwikkelde samenlevingen worden gekenmerkt onder andere een oprechte en goedwerkende democratie waar daadwerkelijk geluisterd wordt naar álle stemmen. Waar geen geheimen leven en verborgen agenda’s zijn, maar volledige transparantie is.  Waar gelijke rechten gelden voor iedereen, zoals gelijke beloningen voor vrouwen en mannen. Waar alle groepen en landen in vrede naast elkaar en met elkaar leven en werken. Waar genoeg water, eten en huisvesting voor iedereen is en honger verbannen is. Waar de voedingsbodem van ons bestaan, de aarde, in ons doen en laten gerespecteerd wordt. Een utopie?

Current development of the world

Current development of the world In any case, right now the world is suffering a collective ego regression led by ego or ego-disturbed leaders who feed low ego societies. Current economic and political interests prevail above human dignity and equality. Even the United Nations, which should promote a peaceful world and care for everyone, displays a number of fundamental shortcomings. Injustice has even been given a seat at the UN. Just look at the UN human rights council, which refused to debate on the report on human rights violations in China. A report that had previously been concealed despite the proven use of systematic torture, detention and brainwashing amongst the Muslim Uyghur minority.

Every country that voted no or abstained contributes to this universal injustice. They lack the guts to choose universal justice. And this is simply due to the fear of sacrificing too much political, economic and personal capital, status and privilege. Consequently, fear and power are the dominant factors, not love of your fellow human beings. Qatar’s no vote, based on economic interests, clearly highlighted its own human rights abuses. But ok, football entertainment trumps everything. And we’ll soon all be enjoying watching the World Cup. For the record, I am a massive football fan, but this just isn’t right.

And injustice is ubiquitous. In my own country too. No different to other countries. The leadership in recent years has allowed the rich (mostly men) to get richer and the poor to get poorer, so now even food banks can no longer cope, on top of the immense growth of policy implemented on the basis of lies and egoism.

And as I already mentioned, some governments and leaders deliberately utilise control to impose a regime where torture, systematic murder and indoctrination are portrayed as normal and responsible. Sometimes even in the name of God, Allah or whoever. Because this gives you licence to do whatever you want. But what if your own child, father or mother is the one having their human rights contravened? What if the situation is reversed and you or your partner or relative are indoctrinated, tortured or killed? Tell me, what is the difference? A great deal from the ego, and nothing from the spirit. Because then we are all equal. All people with the same wishes, fears, pains and desires. There is no difference because at our core we are all equal.

“At our core we are all equal”

What injustice have you experienced? How did it feel? What if you were also let down by your own government or the UN? Or even tortured or killed? This is not how we’ll make a better world.

Then how?

Fortunately, there is also a natural development underway. New generations are increasingly intolerant of these unjust ego societies. Look at Iran. Patience is running thin with the reign of terror imposed by patriarchal white-man-power (fed by a distorted use of religion). It is just a matter of time. The fresh spirit-awareness of younger generations no longer accepts it, and the revolt is growing of its own accord. Simply because people’s hearts can no longer bear it.

It is also time for beloved leaders to cultivate a better world, as you can read in another article: https://martinthoolen.com/en/openstaande-vacatures-voor-de-wereldde-geliefde-leider/

What can you do yourself?

Besides new leaders and the natural development of ego resistance, you can also make a personal contribution to a better world. You don’t have to wait for others. Dare to choose. Dare to be a dissident in your ego environments. Choose for or create a better world around you, however hard it may be. Are you aware of your own ego, soul and how (self)consciousness/spirit can enrich you? See yourself with new eyes and approach everyone around you in a truthful, sincere and peaceful way, even when you do not agree. Look at how you treat your family, neighbours, customers, team-members, board-members, shareholders, employees at work yourself. Thus creating a better world around you daily. https://www.boekenbestellen.nl/boek/persoonlijk-inspirerend-leiderschap/9789090362908

Or would you like to personally receive and experience the tools for a better world? Then this Master’s course could help: https://martinthoolen.com/en/service/master-module-persoonlijk-inspirerend-leiderschap/Furthermore, it can also fundamentally promote a more effective, balanced, sustainable and dynamic working life and add meaning to your personal life.

A better world. Is that possible? Yes! If this all happens more there really could be a burgeoning paradise on earth in just a few decades. You can go for that instead of complaining and feeling victimised by a world you can’t stand. 

The choice is yours.

© 2022: Martin Thoolen #personalleadership #inspiredleadership #spiritedpersonalleadership #mastercoursespritedp[ersonalleadership #peace #peaceonearth #coaching #training #persoonlijkleiderschap #inspirerendleiderschap #mastercoursepersoonlijkinspirerendleiderschap #coaching #training #vrede #vredeopaarde

© 2022: Martin Thoolen

After two years of writing a new book and Masterclass for Leaders, I am coming into new focus. Also with this revamped website. Here you can quickly find the new services you are looking for to move you, your team or organization forward.

But you can, easily find inspiration for your personal, professional and team development, as well. Like short videos, interesting weblinks, tips for books, but also self-written blogs, articles and books.

I wish you a lot of inspiration.

Martin Thoolen